Pronouns Matter

Pronouns image by Alexander Grey on Unsplash
Photo by Alexander Grey on Unsplash

You can’t tell a person’s gender identity or pronouns by looking at them! Leaving it up to only gender expansive folx to have to give their pronouns is a form of exclusion. When everyone shares their pronouns, it creates a safer and more inclusive space for everyone.

Using they/them in the singular may be the most challenging pronouns to get used to (in English anyway), but the main thing is to make the effort. It does get easier, and the difference, of even making an effort, for people who identify as nonbinary and use they/them pronouns is noticeable. If you are really struggling with this, simply try not using pronouns at all and just use their first name to refer to them. It may seem or feel “impersonal” to you at first, but not misgendering someone will feel really inclusive to them.

If someone’s pronouns are something you haven’t seen before, such as neo pronouns or even a combination such as “she/they” refrain from pointing that out to them. This is part of compassionate communication and being inclusive. If they bring it up, great, if not, you can satisfy your own curiosity right here on this thing called the Internet, later.

If you do not know someone’s pronouns, please use “they/them” until you get to know them well enough that they share their pronouns with you.

To learn more, here is a video I made during the “Yoga Visibility Challenge” with Susanna Barkataki in 2024:

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